Dr Juliet Moses takes us into the secret wishes of women in bed.
"Dear Dr Juliet,
I am madly in love with a lady I hope to settle down with very soon but my problem is that I am very much experienced in the art of love making. What are the things I need to do to give her the best sexevery time we make love?
Dave."
We got this letter the day and passed it over to our sex-pert, Dr Juliet Moses. And this is how she treated the topic:
Dear Dave,
It is nice you are so honest and from all indications, you have the interest of your woman at heart. Let me tell you that there are no fast and tested rules that would apply to every woman but generally speaking, there are things every woman would secretly long for in bed. Some could be bold enough to tell you but some are so shy and would want you to discover them yourself.
1. To be dominated
Every woman wants to be dominated in bed, no matter her status in life and in the society. Even if you're with a big society, bigger-balls-than-yours sort of woman who puts her independence before any other aspect in her life, trust us, she still wants you to take charge in the bedroom.
At least sometimes anyway. Unfortunately, many men are a bit afraid to do so for fear of coming across as forceful which could be termed to be rape.
The trick here is to start slow. Don't start showing the 'I-am-a-man-stunt' because it is never a good idea to bark orders at her or call her a 'slut' right from the start. The transition might be a little too drastic to cope with and you don't want to risk putting her off. Be commanding but sensitive to her responses. The balance will have her begging for more.
2. Light Spanking
Most women love the rougher side of se x and would not shy away from dreaming about it. A reasonable amount of women like it as rough as you can give it too. But don't go there unless you've worked your way up or you might get more than a playful punch in your face.
Before you get too excited about smacking her, know that it's just fantastic foreplay. It can feel amazing for both of you and women in particular tend to claim that that's the kind of roughing up that sends tingles to all the right places.
Though they promise you they love it, most feel to embarrassed to ask for it for fear of how it sounds. It's up to you to break this barrier. Also, try and refrain from causing bruising or injury of any sort!
3. Dirty Talk
This is a very grey area and once again, if you jump the gun, you could find yourself out of a great session between the sheets, as well as your woman! But let's not make any bones about it, women love dirty talk. And men almost never give it to them. You become the first in her life to provide her with this secret sensual desire and chances are, she's never going to let you go!
I am madly in love with a lady I hope to settle down with very soon but my problem is that I am very much experienced in the art of love making. What are the things I need to do to give her the best sexevery time we make love?
Dave."
We got this letter the day and passed it over to our sex-pert, Dr Juliet Moses. And this is how she treated the topic:
Dear Dave,
It is nice you are so honest and from all indications, you have the interest of your woman at heart. Let me tell you that there are no fast and tested rules that would apply to every woman but generally speaking, there are things every woman would secretly long for in bed. Some could be bold enough to tell you but some are so shy and would want you to discover them yourself.
1. To be dominated
Every woman wants to be dominated in bed, no matter her status in life and in the society. Even if you're with a big society, bigger-balls-than-yours sort of woman who puts her independence before any other aspect in her life, trust us, she still wants you to take charge in the bedroom.
At least sometimes anyway. Unfortunately, many men are a bit afraid to do so for fear of coming across as forceful which could be termed to be rape.
The trick here is to start slow. Don't start showing the 'I-am-a-man-stunt' because it is never a good idea to bark orders at her or call her a 'slut' right from the start. The transition might be a little too drastic to cope with and you don't want to risk putting her off. Be commanding but sensitive to her responses. The balance will have her begging for more.
2. Light Spanking
Most women love the rougher side of se x and would not shy away from dreaming about it. A reasonable amount of women like it as rough as you can give it too. But don't go there unless you've worked your way up or you might get more than a playful punch in your face.
Before you get too excited about smacking her, know that it's just fantastic foreplay. It can feel amazing for both of you and women in particular tend to claim that that's the kind of roughing up that sends tingles to all the right places.
Though they promise you they love it, most feel to embarrassed to ask for it for fear of how it sounds. It's up to you to break this barrier. Also, try and refrain from causing bruising or injury of any sort!
3. Dirty Talk
This is a very grey area and once again, if you jump the gun, you could find yourself out of a great session between the sheets, as well as your woman! But let's not make any bones about it, women love dirty talk. And men almost never give it to them. You become the first in her life to provide her with this secret sensual desire and chances are, she's never going to let you go!
The reason is simple. Women are imaginative, vocal creatures. And they don't want to hear your flowery sweet nothings whispered into their ears, many want you to be downright twisted.
Be very basic about it, ask her if she likes what you're doing, what her fantasies are etc., and gauge her responses before you march on like a good soldier. Heavier, quicker breathing are sure fire signs that she wants more but if she turns away from you or stiffens up a bit, stop right there. This one really could go either way, so tread carefully!
4. To dominate
Yes, we know we said women want you to take charge but this is one thing you should know about women: they want it all! Not that there's anything wrong with changing things up in the bedroom every once in a while and adding in some new heat.
We already know that a surprising majority of men seriously dig 'the cowgirl' or 'girl on top' position and this is the best way to make her feel as though she's in control of what's going on.
Let her be in charge and more importantly, make her feel as though she's in charge. Be responsive too, let her know that what she's doing is really working for you, dig your fingers into her back and let her have her way with you. Win-win situation for both parties involved? Certainly so.
Once she's had a fair amount of time taking the reigns, switch it up to dominate her without warning. The sudden transition will leave her hot and heavy for you.
5. Kiss her when making love to her
A surprisingly large number of women complain that men tend to get lost in their own world while making love, entirely ignoring them and making no effort whatsoever to kiss them while still engaging in sex.
Women are emotional and as much as this article has told you they'd like to be bruised and beaten (lightly of course) it's all about maintaining the perfect balance.
Everything comes in pairs and it would be nice if every once in a while, you could show her you're making an effort to please her between the sheets, both physically and emotionally.
We will conclude on this series next week.
Be very basic about it, ask her if she likes what you're doing, what her fantasies are etc., and gauge her responses before you march on like a good soldier. Heavier, quicker breathing are sure fire signs that she wants more but if she turns away from you or stiffens up a bit, stop right there. This one really could go either way, so tread carefully!
4. To dominate
Yes, we know we said women want you to take charge but this is one thing you should know about women: they want it all! Not that there's anything wrong with changing things up in the bedroom every once in a while and adding in some new heat.
We already know that a surprising majority of men seriously dig 'the cowgirl' or 'girl on top' position and this is the best way to make her feel as though she's in control of what's going on.
Let her be in charge and more importantly, make her feel as though she's in charge. Be responsive too, let her know that what she's doing is really working for you, dig your fingers into her back and let her have her way with you. Win-win situation for both parties involved? Certainly so.
Once she's had a fair amount of time taking the reigns, switch it up to dominate her without warning. The sudden transition will leave her hot and heavy for you.
5. Kiss her when making love to her
A surprisingly large number of women complain that men tend to get lost in their own world while making love, entirely ignoring them and making no effort whatsoever to kiss them while still engaging in sex.
Women are emotional and as much as this article has told you they'd like to be bruised and beaten (lightly of course) it's all about maintaining the perfect balance.
Everything comes in pairs and it would be nice if every once in a while, you could show her you're making an effort to please her between the sheets, both physically and emotionally.
We will conclude on this series next week.