Bragging about being good in bed is one thing,
secretly hoping you're great in the sack is another,
but what really does make you good in bed? Whether you're
in a relationship or newly dating, being good in bed,
together especially, is something most people consider vital to a happy relationship. So what are the tell-tale signs?
1. You feel connected to your partner
Research by sexologists seeking to answer the
question, "What makes good sex?" has shown that
the answer lies not in any particular technique but in two people feeling a sense of connection together. Good sex is
not just a physical experience but rather one that
emphasises the core quality of it being a shared, meaningful experience. So to be good in bed, the very first step is to
understand that dimension of connecting with your partner beyond the physical level. Couples who study tantric sex,
karezza and other systems of mind-body-spirit sexual connection devote themselves to connecting beyond the
physical. Many people are turning to trying it out and seeing the benefits in their relationship blossom.
2. You're confident
Other fundamental qualities that make you a great
lover include being confident about yourself, having a positive body image, and feeling sexy. If you feelgreater about your sexy self it not only enhances
your physical libido, but it allows you to get lost in
the sexual experience, become intensely immersed
in it, and be swept away in the pleasure. This is a
great lover, the one who isn't self conscious and
detached from the experience.
3. You're open to change in the bedroom
A good lover uses their most important Intimate organ which isn't the one between the legs, but the one between your ears. Using your brain for creativity,
imagination and keeping an open mind for trying
new things also will make you a good lover your
whole life. Your body will change, your partners may change, your sexual response and health will change.
So if you remain open to change in your sexual
expression you'll be guaranteed to be a creative,
dynamic lover.
4. You listen to your partner
Listening is a vital quality of being a good lover, as is being attentive, generous or at least unselfish. Sex is a shared experience, so paying attention to your partners needs, including as their desires change too is more important
than anything other thing that you do between the sheets. Without good communication you can't possibly be a great
lover.
5. You don't rush things
Like with most things in life, it you pay attention to
detail, and take your time, the result will be far
superior than if you rush around blindly. While you
wouldn't think it, being thorough is a definitely
quality of a master class lover. See things through
from start to finish, if you catch my drift.
6. You welcome the opportunity to have sex
A good balance between spontaneity and just doing
it is important! Don't forget the plain mathematics of good sex: saying yes more than no. Being
approachable by your partner, initiating nookie
yourself, and being eager more often than refusing is a pretty simple but often overlooked quality of being great sexually.
7. You're playful in bed
Sex is our adult recreation - not just procreation. This is your adult playtime to feel good with each other and enjoy every bit of one another. It doesn't have to be serious or harried (sometimes that's okay too). If you want to be good
in bed, be playful - show your enjoyment
